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29 Things I’ve learned in my 20’s

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This will be my last year of my 20’s and it is kind of a bittersweet moment. I’ve never been afraid of getting older, in fact, I’ve always embraced it. I think there is something beautiful in embracing your age. Plus, I LOVE birthdays! But more importantly, I believe in acting your age– which means, I have never tried to act older or younger than I am. I’ve definitely had some immature moments, crazy moments, self-reflecting moments, rebellious moments, and my wise moments– but all these moments have led me to the person I am today and have taught me so much more than I ever bargained for.

In two months, I will be 29! Shocking, I know! And while some of my friends who are turning the same age are wanting to hide away and cry over getting older. Well, darlings, I’m embracing it! In fact, I’ve made this year my traveling year! So far I have been to Montana, I’ve seen Salt Lake City from the clouds (they have a very cute airport) and soon to come more travels (To Be Announced..). Today, I wanted to take this moment and share with you all how special your 20’s truly are. And don’t waste another minute trying to be someone or something you’re not.

So here’s a list of 29 Things I’ve learned in my TWENTIES:

1. You Are Going to Feel Like You Know Everything

When I turned 20, it was really scary at first because in my mind I thought, “woah I’m not a teen!” But then it’s kind of thrilling because in some ways you’re stepping further into adulthood. However, we all go through moments of thinking we know everything and sooner or later you’ll realize that you DON’T know everything. Biggest Pet Peeve: People younger thinking they know everything! And news flash–YA’LL DON’T! But that’s ok. When I was 20 I thought I knew it all. Truthfully, I was late to the rebellious train and really didn’t start going against everything until I turned 20. But I quickly learned– that I didn’t know everything.

2. Actions have Consequences

I thought I could be my own boss and not have to worry about my actions. But the truth is, actions do have consequences. It is easy to get caught up in your own world and not really pay attention to what’s around you or what you do or say can affect others. I’ve always been fairly cautious about what I say or do. But when I was 21– it was all fun and games. I didn’t think about consequences, all I thought about was what I wanted. It’s okay to go after what you want, just as long as you aren’t stepping on others to get there. I watched so many people go through their 20’s being accountable for their actions and this is so important. It’s ok to make mistakes, but when you keep making the same mistake over and over again–it’s not a mistake anymore, it’s a choice. I learned early on to always make good choices. And sure, I stepped out of line every now and then– but life is about learning and I sure learned my lesson.

3. Stop Caring What Everyone Else Thinks

All my life I thought carefully about how others would feel, but in my 20’s I learned that it’s VERY important to always be true to yourself. It’s so easy to get caught up in the hoopla of it all. I don’t know what it is about humans, but there are people in the world who will root for you to fail. So prove them wrong! I say this with a smirk across my face because there are so many people who constantly put others down, and those people have people putting them down and it’s just this one big vicious cycle. But it doesn’t have to be. Truth is, no one is going to understand you, except for YOU. There isn’t a rhyme or reason, it isn’t anything you said or did, it’s just some people live their lives so negatively that they can’t find it in their hearts to be positive. But just know it has nothing to do with you. It’s their problem, not yours. If I had a penny for every time someone told me I couldn’t do something, I’d be RICH. (Thank you, Maren Morris, for that song!) I learned in my 20’s that people are going to tell you that you won’t achieve your goal, don’t believe them– just keep working and you’ll show them! And honestly, that’s the best revenge!

4. You Will Lose Your Friends

In your 20’s you start to see things in a new perspective, this means you and your friends begin to change. You start to decide what you want to be and sometimes you will fall into the same boat, some will lead completely opposite directions, and that’s okay too. It isn’t always about something someone did or said, there may not have even been a fight–sometimes you just grow apart and there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. And if I’m being honest, which I always am, relationships really aren’t meant to last a lifetime. It sounds earthshattering I know, but you can’t predict the future and you can’t change to keep things the same either. I learned that I tend to make more time for people then they make for me, I learned that I will make choices that could end up losing my best friends. But I wouldn’t change any of it. Those people weren’t meant to stay in my life. And don’t worry, you will find your tribe!

5. Don’t Be So Sensitive

I’ve learned that in my 20’s not to assume people will care about you the way you do. It is good to have a backbone and still be a good person. I think that is the biggest mistake people make, is assuming you have to be one or the other– that you can’t be kind if you’re strong headed, that you can’t have a good heart if you give someone the cold shoulder. But all of that is false. I grew up being nice to everyone, which led to most people assuming they could walk all over me, until one day they couldn’t anymore. Those people couldn’t handle my honesty or me taking the upper hand and standing up for myself– and those people are no longer in my life for the better. It’s so easy to react to people and to assume everyone has a secret agenda. Truth is, humans aren’t that clever or evil. Not everyone is out to get you–and sometimes communication is the best way to understand where someone is coming from. Not everyone is going to hurt you, but not everyone thinks the way you do.

6. Eliminate All Negativity

This includes people. In my late 20’s my friends began to show their true colors and this was a huge realization. It can really mess with your emotions, especially when these people are toxic. Number one rule: if they don’t bring the light to your life, then burn out that “flame”. Life is way too short to hold onto people that no longer serve a purpose in your life. During my 20’s, I had friends who constantly tried to make me feel bad for the way I felt or thought or even my own actions. I quickly learned that there’s no room for people like that, anyone who makes you feel like you aren’t worthy of what you want isn’t a friend– and it’s better to kick them to the curb. It doesn’t make you a bad person for eliminating toxicity. I learned not to waste my time on people who only try to make themselves feel better by tearing you down. Thank u, NEXT!

7. Timing Is Everything

Careers, friendships, relationships, everything requires patience. And if I’m being honest, again, well, I’m not such a patient person. However, I have learned to be patient– it’s the only way in order to truly live your life to the fullest. You see, we are all on this train and each train takes a different path– some may be on that train together, while other trains are moving slow, some fast, some taking pit stops every now and then. My point is, no one is on the same exact path and it’s ALL about timing. In my 20’s, I learned that it’s okay to take time for yourself– don’t lose hope just because your career hasn’t taken off. Don’t feel unworthy, because you’re single and everyone else is getting married. We all move at a different pace, and just trust the universe. We all will end up exactly where we’re supposed to be.

8. Invest in Experiences, not Things

This is so important because in your 20’s you don’t have a whole lot to worry about. Sure some or most of us have bills, but not everyone has children or a mortgage. I learned in my 20’s that even though I had fewer obligations, it wasn’t going to be that way forever. I mentioned before that traveling was important to me. I believe traveling is a great investment. Your 20’s are the most important years– you can do whatever you want– take a risk. Maybe try a new hobby. For me, I made it a point to spend more time experiencing new things with my friends or family or even alone, than spending my money on things I’d most likely get bored with within a few months to a couple years. It is better to enjoy your 20’s and amplify your experiences.

9. Be Selfish

It’s okay to take this time to completely invest in yourself. I always had this fear of disappointing others, that I found myself going along with whatever they wanted or felt. But now, I’m better at doing what’s best for myself. Everyone looks at the word “selfish” as something negative– but the truth is, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being selfish. I learned in my 20’s that there will come a time where you have to make choices, and those choices can often affect those around you, but don’t be defeated by what everyone else thinks. It’s okay to say “no” to things. I’ve learned that in my 20’s, humans often feel like they need validation, this couldn’t be far from the truth. Being selfish doesn’t make you heartless, it just means you are accessing your needs and desires.

10. Your Gut Knows Best

It’s easy to question yourself. In my 20’s I found myself wanting to follow my heart over anything else. But often, your heart can be blinded by what’s right in front of you. I’ve learned that you can still follow your heart, but trust your gut. If you ever get a bad feeling about something or someone, generally, your instincts are correct. I usually get along with everyone, but once in a blue moon I’ll get a bad vibe from someone. It isn’t really anything they said or did, but it’s this feeling in the pit of my stomach. And so far, whenever I get that feeling, the truth comes to surface and I was right about that person all along. Your gut is a powerful thing– it’s a feeling that is so personal that not one person can weigh in on what it is you’re feeling. In my 20’s, I’ve learned that my intuition had simply been shaped from my past experiences and my existing knowledge of these experiences which allowed me to really tune into my body and know when something just doesn’t feel right.

11. It’s Okay to be Weird

To some I may seem quiet, to some I’m really loud, some I’m just normal and others I’m incredibly weird. But honestly, who cares?! I’ve learned that in life, not everyone is going to like you or understand you and that’s okay. Sometimes you have to step outside of your shell (go on little crab!) and take a risk. Be weird, be silly, be confident, be strong– whatever you want to be, just remember to always be your authentic true self! Throughout my twenties, I have learned that I would rather be weird, than fake. I never try to be something I’m not– and whether people like this about me or not, well, who gives a damn. I like me. My family likes me. My friends like me– or at least, I hope they like me. My point is, is I am really weird–like 98% of the time. I embrace my weirdness and either you can hop on this weird train with me or just do your own THANG! (Ya feels?) You see I love old classic films, I love books (I’m the blonde version of Belle from Beauty & The Beast), I enjoy crossword puzzles, I like to sit inside and put together a puzzle. I like to dance around and sing at the top of my lungs. I found myself pretending to be interested in conversations I didn’t even understand, I faked my way through going to nightclubs and bars with friends even when I would so rather be at home watching Gilmore Girls and eating french fries while petting my dog. It took me 29 years, but the most wondrous friends, a loving family, and my ultimate tribe that helped me embrace my weirdness. So thank you everyone in my life who have helped me keep it 100% real.

12. You Don’t Have to Like Everyone

I imagine what it would be like to walk up to someone I don’t care for and just blatantly tell them how I feel. But truthfully, I wouldn’t ever do that. I’m an honest person, but I’m not mean. I keep it 100%! In my 20’s I learned that it’s okay not to like everyone. There are just certain people that enter your life and you don’t have to be friends with every single person you meet. For various reasons, maybe they just leave a bad taste, maybe they have such bad morals that you find yourself feeling like you are their mother, perhaps every habit they have annoys the hell out of you. Whatever the reason might be just know that it’s perfectly okay not to like them. Now don’t go being mean to people, because that is just uncalled for. I’ve learned that not liking someone doesn’t mean you hate them, it just means their vibe doesn’t attract your tribe, meaning, not everyone is meant to be best friends. I used to feel like I had to be friends with everyone, but that isn’t the case anymore. You can be cordial and polite to those you aren’t really a fan of.

13. Music Is The Best Medicine

Music has always been a huge part of my life. Growing up, I would write songs and play guitar. In college, I started my own youtube channel. I would play for my friends at kickbacks and for my family at Holiday parties. One of my friends gave me the courage to perform and it was the most amazing experience of my life. It was terrifying at first, but then there’s this sense of calmness. I love to tell stories– and most of my songs are about stories. Performing is really just a hobby for me, it’s how I stay sane. Writing songs allowed me to express my emotions in ways I found it difficult to convey in person to others. I’ve learned in my 20’s that you are on this giant emotional roller coaster. There will be highs and there will be lows, but it’s always important to remain calm and to find what brings out the light in you. Music is the best medicine in my opinion. It helps you free your mind, tell stories, convey a message to others and often, there will be many people who can relate.

14. Your Happiness Is More Important

We go through life so worried about what others think of us, that we forget most of the time they aren’t even thinking about you. In my 20’s, I learned that my own happiness should always be top priority. That it should triumph over anything else. Truth is, you can’t wait for happiness, you have to fight for it. No one or no one thing is going to bring you happiness– you must create it yourself. It’s so easy to get caught up in this crazy world and think that your happiness solely relies on those around you. But I’ve learned that couldn’t be further from the truth. No amount of money, people, careers, things will make you as happy. Stop waiting for someone else to bring you happiness. Remember, it’s okay to say no to things. It’s ok, to walk away from negativity. In a world that is constantly striving to bring you down, learn to lift yourself up. Learn to be happy on your own. And it’s great if you find your ‘tribe’ that give you all those happy vibes.My motto is “Good vibes only!”

15. Age Doesn’t Define Your Maturity

I used to believe that with age came maturity but this statement couldn’t be farther from the truth. Remember in the beginning how I stated that I always believed in acting my age? Well, some people just never grow up. Throughout my 20’s I’ve learned that some of the nicest people, some of the most mature people, are the ones that aren’t always the same age as you. Now granted, there is a huge chunk of young peeps, who really truly haven’t matured. But recently, in my final year of being in my 20’s I’ve learned that even people my age lack maturity. They become so wrapped up in themselves and that they “know it all” that they forget to see things any other way. Shout out to my younger friends for being amazing in every way and for carrying charisma and maturity better than any ‘almost 30-yr old’ I’ve met. I had a “friend” recently feel the need to just cross me out of her life. For a brief moment, I was bummed but honestly, I didn’t care that much. I realized we were on two different wavelengths and she was never going to grow up. Sometimes, maturity has nothing to do with age– ever seen the Real Housewives show? Those women may never grow up. Truth is, it’s often how you were raised, the life lessons you’ve endured, and just being a decent human being. Learn to see things through others eyes before jumping to any conclusions.

16. Say No To Normalcy

In my 20’s I thought being normal was how it was supposed to be. But I quickly learned that nothing is more liberating and delicious than rebelling against normalcy and overall, choosing your soul’s truest calling. When I graduated High School, I didn’t have a clue where I wanted to go, who I wanted to be, or what I wanted to do in life. I did the whole “go to college” thing but I couldn’t focus. I just didn’t want to get some boring degree that meant nothing. And so, I poured myself into work and in my spare time I wrote novels. Then one day I decided I really like Marketing– and so, I found myself going back to school. But again, I rebelled against normalcy and just decided on a certificate. And in my spare time I was always writing. My head was in the clouds, and still is. After that I decided I wanted to be a journalist. I wanted to travel the world and write about my experiences. In my 20’s I knew that nothing would ever come easy and if I wanted something I had to work for it. After I got my AA in Journalism, I still wanted more. Even applied to become a flight attendant. Still a slight option, but I realized it wasn’t for me. Truth is, I’m still figuring it all out, I’m still a free bird. Just know it’s okay to keep your options open, it’s okay to take a reckless path because you never know where it may lead you. Don’t be afraid to take risks.

17. Every Dream Comes with Sacrifice

I have learned that opportunities will arise and you have to make a choice. Is it worth the risk? When you are 20-something, the world seems so big and making choices seem so small. You just think about what it is you want and you go for it without looking back. Truth is, chasing dreams can be really scary. It’s because nothing worthwhile comes easy. Dreams do take sacrifice and you have to be willing to take those risks if it’s something you truly want. So many people throughout my life have told me not to chase my dreams. This statement seemed silly to me. Why on earth would anyone say such a thing? But then I realized these people are normal. These people are getting stuck in ruts, going after careers they don’t really want. That is sad to me. In my 20’s I have learned that chasing my dreams is the best decision I’ve ever made. You will make mistakes, you will fall behind, you may even take the wrong path. But as long as you are chasing after what your heart truly desires, then I say go for it. Run after those dreams and don’t look back. It’ll for sure be a bumpy ride, but what’s the fun in smooth sailing?

18. You Don’t Need A Degree to Achieve Great Things

All your life you are going to be told that the most important thing in life is an education. And although, to an extent this is very true, however, most people are under the impression that they HAVE to get a degree in order to succeed. And this could not be farther from the truth. I think having an education is important, I myself, got a certificate in Marketing and my AA degree in Journalism. However, I did not continue on to get my Bachelors or Masters or anything higher. I did not see the point in doing so when what I wanted to do in life did not require a higher degree. Now by no means am I saying to those who have degrees that is isn’t important because it’s important to you and that is all that matters. My point is, in my 20’s while everyone was getting these high degrees, struggling to find jobs out of college and then landing jobs they didn’t even want, and ending up with major debt–well, if I’m being honest (I always am!) but that just doesn’t sound appealing. Just because you have a degree, doesn’t guarantee you a job let alone a high paying one. I know people who don’t have degrees who have worked their way up in life, I know people who have dreams that don’t require a degree but they have enough passion and drive to help them achieve, and I know people who do have degree’s and are working hard to get their dream job. In my 20’s I have learned that you can be successful without falling into the same pattern as the person next to you. My 20’s have taught me that some people will never admit that you don’t need a degree to be successful, however, you do need an education. You need to have a desire to continue to learn, work hard, and adapt to whatever obstacle comes your way.

19. Living Life Vicariously Through Gilmore Girls

As long as  I can remember, I have been obsessed with the television series, Gilmore Girls. Pretty sure Lorelai and Rory are my spirit animals. But Gilmore Girls has truly helped me through my 20’s. For starters, Lorelai has this fierce independence to her, she fought to remain single in a town where everyone was getting married. She was perfectly content being who she was and she never once apologized for being herself. I learned that coffee is the best invention, “I’ll take coffee in an IV please”. She has this way of looking at life as “outside the box” way of thinking– I’ve taken this to heart throughout my 20’s and learned to think outside the box a little more. Through this show, I’ve learned that sometimes you have to kick down doors and move mountains.. and the best part, you can do all this in heels! (Go Lorelai!) Truth is, this show will never cease to be an inspiration. Your 20’s can be a very lonely time and it’s good to have something to help you through those ups and downs. This show shines a light on my independence, along with my ridiculous obsession with coffee.

20. Heartache is a Good Thing

I know what you all are probably thinking– “how is being heartbroken good?” but the way I see it, is your heart wouldn’t break if you didn’t care, so in all fairness, having your heart broken is proof that your heart works. Truthfully, unrequited love has been a major theme throughout my 20’s. It was always me, falling too hard too fast, just to change my mind about them. Or it was them who just didn’t feel the same. But I wouldn’t trade any of it, because heartbreak has only made me stronger. Friends can break your heart, relationships can break your heart, but it isn’t about why or how your heart broke, it’s what you do after that is the true power. In my 20’s I have learned to use heartache as fuel to the fire. I’m a passionate person and when I care, I care deeply. I’ve learned not everyone is like this. Positivity has always been an important factor in my life, and especially in my 20’s, I’ve learned that if I can find a way to put an optimistic spin on my fleeting dispairs– that we are all receptive to heartache and that this is actually a good thing. It means you are vulnerable and often in relationships you must be able to be vulnerable. I have learned this is a good thing, that heartache can actually be a good thing.

21. People Will Disappoint You

In my 20’s, I’ve learned that people inevitably disappoint you or let you down at some point in your life. Whether it’s a coworker throwing digs at you, a partner not putting in half the effort, a friend canceling plans at last minute, a rude neighbor, a family member missing out on an important occasion–whatever it is, life will bring you disappointment. However, I have learned not to allow these disappointments to get me down. It can be hard sometimes, you feel so angry or frustrated that you start questioning others loyalty. But I’ve learned that most people are good people, most people’s intentions aren’t to disappoint you. In my 20’s I’ve learned that you can’t control what choices others make, but you can control how you react to things. Truth is, you can’t always stop people from letting you down or acting poorly, but you also can’t allow it to derail your life entirely. One thing I have learned in my 20’s when disappointment arises, I start to evaluate my expectations. Sometimes we have high expectations of people and it’s important to take a step back and have a newer perspective of things. Think about whether how you’re reacting or feeling towards the situation is reasonable, and ask yourself do you believe this person is capable of doing what you expect. In my 20’s I have learned not to take things so personally, and often you must adjust your expectations or behavior accordingly.

22. Opinions Might Get You In Trouble

It is so easy to let words roll off your tongue like you have honey on your lips. But sometimes, saying what you’re thinking isn’t always best. I’ve always lived my life being as honest as I can be. However, there is a time and place to say what it is you are thinking and I think that just comes with maturity. I have opinions, lots of them and everyone who knows me knows this. I might instigate a little, but for the most part I always think before I speak. I didn’t always do this though. I’ve learned throughout my 20’s that taking a moment to gather your thoughts before speaking, is the smarter approach. Sometimes people can push your buttons and you end up saying something later on you’ll regret. You see, no one “makes” you say anything, it’s best to step back and evaluate the situation. If this person is putting you down or is clearly in the wrong then no doubt it is perfectly okay to speak your mind. I’ve learned when it’s appropriate to say something and when it’s just best to keep it to myself. What’s that saying, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” I still have my moments of letting things slip, of being an instigator, of firing back–but with all good intentions. In my 20’s I have learned to be more aware of what I’m saying before saying it out loud.

23. Learn to be Alone, and to Like It

I saw this quote once, it said “your 20’s are your ‘selfish’ years. Old enough to make the right decisions and young enough to make the wrong ones. Be selfish with your time– travel, explore, fall in and out of love, be ridiculous and silly, stupid and wild. Be 20something.” And honestly, this has been one of my favorite quotes that I have never related more to. In my 20’s, I’ve learned to be ‘selfish’, I’ve learned to take chances, and I’ve been single for most of the time. But most importantly, I’ve learned that it’s perfectly okay to take these years and really figure your life out. I’ve learned to embrace my independence and not be afraid to be alone. Another quote I love, “Learn to be alone and to like it. There’s nothing more freeing and empowering than learning to like your own company.” My 20’s often felt like the loneliest years, mainly because my friends were moving away, getting married and starting new lives while I was still figuring it all out. But then I realized that my life isn’t theirs, that I’m on my own journey and that’s perfectly fine. Sometimes the best company, is yourself. So go on and have solo dance parties in your bedroom, take a drive by yourself, go to lunch or coffee and sit alone. There truly isn’t anything more freeing than enjoying your own company.

24. Money Isn’t Everything

Now don’t get me wrong, money is a very important factor in life. It helps you create stability. But some people go through life only chasing money, and they start to lose sight of what is really important. In my 20’s, I thought “I can’t wait to be rich and be able to live my life” but truth is, I was already rich– rich in family, rich in friends, rich in my own endeavors and I was already living my life to the fullest. Money is important but it isn’t everything. When you’re young you just want it all but if you take a step back you’ll see that it won’t buy you happiness, it won’t make you a better person, it won’t make people like you. It may bring you those things for a small amount of time– chicken tenders make me happy but that doesn’t mean I’d go buy out all the chicken tenders in the world. My point is, we all are already rich. I think it’s important to have a clear mindset– work hard, achieve your goals and if those goals bring you good fortune, then more power to ya!

25. Embrace Change

Change is really scary but sometimes you have to take chances. In life, in general, you will go through many, many, many changes! But I’ve found that some of the biggest changes, happen in your 20’s. Turning 20 in general is a change because you’re officially out of your “teens” and 21 is big because you now can legally drink and go to bars/clubs (if that’s your thing). 25 is major because you’ve come to your quarter-life and now people around you start settling into relationships, marriages, careers, et cetera. I had gone through A LOT of changes in my 20’s but all for the better and I’ve learned so much because of these changes. It is inevitable to not go through change–so you might as well embrace it. Just being in your 20’s is  HUGE change– and often people want to rush through their years as if they are chasing something bigger or better. But I HIGHLY suggest you slow down–especially in your 20’s. Because a lot is going to change and you might as well hold on tight and enjoy every waking moment because before you know it, you’re turning 29 and looking back on your 20’s wondering how that went so fast.

26. Live According to Your Values

Often when you are young, you don’t always do what you really want to do. Maybe it’s pressure from family, friends, significant others, coworkers, bosses. The point is, anyone could pressure you into anything, but you must not lose sight of who you are. As I mentioned in the beginning, I went through A LOT of moments in my 20’s. I had my rebellious times and I had my wiser moments. But I wouldn’t change any of it for the world because I learned a lot. And although I had all these crazy, wild, magical, rollercoaster, happy moments–I never really lost sight of my OWN values. I always lived the way I wanted to. The most important thing I’ve learned in my 20’s is to live my life exactly how I want to, and to be exactly who I want to be. The right people will either have the same values as you or they will accept the differences and still like you. It goes with finding your tribe. You can do anything you set your mind to, as long as you keep your values afloat.

27. Take Care Of Yourself

This is SO important no matter what age you are. But often when you are young you don’t think much about taking care of yourself. In the beginning of my 20’s I didn’t, however, I learned later on how important this was. Not only is it important to manage your diet, begin a workout regiment, but also focus on healthier skin. The truth is, the sooner you begin to do this, the easier it will be to build a foundation for a overall healthier lifestyle, healthier mind and body. I started getting into yoga and cooking most of my meals. But I wasn’t always like that and if I could go back and tell my early 20 something self what I know now I would–so I’m telling you! For those that are in their 20’s start NOW, taking care of yourself, because your 30 year old self will be thanking your lucky stars that you stayed in shape in your 20’s.

28. Be Brave

Ever heard that Sara Bareilles song.. where she sings out “I just wanna see you be BRAVE” well, that’s my song for you guys. One thing I’ve learned in my 20’s is because you are going to go through a lot of changes, being brave is such an important factor. Truth is, being brave doesn’t mean you are afraid– it means that you are absolutely terrified, but you jump anyways. I’ve lived most of my 20’s this way. Everytime something scared me, instead of running away from it– I embraced it with open arms. Bring on the challenge! Along with being brave, is just knowing your self-worth. It’s scary sometimes speaking up– but if you don’t, you’re just allowing others to manipulate and walk all over you. Growing up, I was always the nice and quiet one–and only was I loud and wild with my close friends and family. However, I rarely ever spoke up until one day– I just had enough. Some people didn’t like this and those people are no longer in my life. The key to being brave, to knowing your self-worth is to realize that you are an asset in life–whether it’s your job, your friends, family, relationships. And anyone who doesn’t value your opinions, how you feel, what you want–then it’s better to know from standing up for yourself than never knowing at all. So go on and embrace your 20’s and be the brave little charmers that I know ya’ll can be!

29. It’s okay to Be Unsatisfied in Where You’re At

I really struggled with this, and it’s still a work in progress. I have always lived my life where I always felt like there was something more out there. I’m a Gemini, and we are very well known for being incredibly indecisive and fickle about everything. This has definitely been a factor in my life– especially, in my 20’s. But what I have learned in my 20’s is that you don’t have to have it ALL figured out and it’s perfectly okay to be unsatisfied in where you are in your life. That’s the best part about being young and in your 20’s is there is so much out there to learn and explore. It is a time for learning about your self and finding your own path. Much of my 20’s were spent exploring my options and making minor alterations towards a life where I’d be satisfied. Truth is, I’m almost 30 and I STILL am making changes. But that is part of life and just know you aren’t alone and that one day you’ll be 100% satisfied. I think the important part is to live each day to the fullest, count your blessings, make every moment count, do as much as you can with what you have and just enjoy the ride and the many experiences you will endure during your life.

There you have it! 29 things that I’ve learned in my 20’s! As I said before, I wasn’t ever afraid of getting older– I was excited for what’s to come and to embrace the changes. In my 20’s I have seen so much growth and change within myself and in my life as well. And honestly, the woman I am today is vastly distinct from the girl I was in my 20’s. I hope this post will help you 20-something’s out there, as I’ve learned A LOT (some I wish I knew when I was 20).


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